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How to Fight Fear and Pursue Your Dreams
I finally got started. This thing that I’ve felt God calling me to for at least a year, maybe longer. Blogging – most people don’t even know what that is. Hitting “publish” on that first blog post was hard. What would people think if they read it? I was afraid they would think it was stupid and a waste. I could handle those thoughts from strangers, because I would never see them. They don’t really know who I am.
The real fear was sharing the blog with my friends and family. They know me! What they think does matter, because I care about them. I was a nurse, I’ve never been a writer. In fact, I admit writing isn’t a natural skill for me. Although I’ve always put thoughts on paper and made clipped notes to myself, I’ve never been one to craft those words into something pleasurable to read.
What if they thought my writing was terrible, my thoughts and ideas were stupid, and I’m not techy at all. And they know me…they know that I don’t have it all together. It’s much easier to share your heart and thoughts on something that you’ve already conquered. But sharing yourself openly and vulnerable when you’re still struggling with something too is a lot harder. It feels like you’re providing people with a measuring stick to judge you by.
I did it Afraid BUT Hidden.
So, I stepped out and hit publish anyway – afraid but hidden. What does that mean?! I blogged in secret. The only person that knew was my husband…not even my mom! Also, I didn’t show my face on any of my social media accounts. I kept all the profile pictures of my logo. That way if it came across their feeds, no one would know it was me. My picture was on the blog itself, but I thought it was safe because that meant someone was interested enough to click over to read it.
Do you see how crazy that is? Haha!
9 Steps to Fight Fear and Pursue Your Dreams
1 – Identify Your Fear
• Sometimes we don’t even identify that what’s holding us back is fear. We don’t dig in enough to put a name to it. We just continue to watch as the desires of our hearts remain undone. Could have been. Should have been. Never Happened.
• I spent almost a year hiding my face from my social media profile because I didn’t want anyone I knew in real life to know it was me. I was afraid people would think I was stupid or a fake. (because I don’t have it all together…like at all. lol!) I’ve evolved and learned many things. I’ve come a long way, but I still have struggles.
• Our human instinct is to stay away from things that make us uncomfortable. Don’t accept that. Do the work to identify your fear. What’s holding you back? This is a must do step to go through the rest.
2 – Make it a Challenge
• I’m going to let you in on a little secret…I don’t like being told what to do! Luckily for me and my mom, I also don’t like to get into trouble or disappoint people. So, I wasn’t a very rebellious child.
• After you’ve identified your fear, take it personally! Turn it into a challenge! This fear is telling you what you can and can not do!
• Are you going to let fear tell you what to do? Fight fear.
3 – Know Your Why
• What do you want? WHY do you want it?
• Write your WHY dow and make it real. Envision yourself in your desired future. Include how it makes you feel, how it will change other areas of your life, your family, what will your life be like?
4 – What do you want more?
• Now that you know your Fear and you know your WHY – What do you want more?
• Examine – What would be worse…
• Your Fear coming true? Or Never doing the thing that you’re really wanting to do?
• Remember our fears are often magnified in our minds. We are built for survival. So, our brain is hardwired to keep us away from the unknown and uncomfortable. That means we make our fears bigger than real life.
5 – Make a Plan
• Reverse Engineer your goal. This means to break down your goal into smaller and smaller pieces until you have some daily action steps.
• This is your map for when fear tries to strike you down. When you move despite your fear, that doesn’t mean your fear goes away. It will most likely come back over and over. Keep to the roadmap of your daily action steps and don’t give up!
6 – Start – Just Do Something
• This step is hard. It requires choosing your Why over your Fear. It requires Focus and Time. Things that we have in short supply.
• It doesn’t have to be big steps. Just steps. You’ve got your small action steps, now do one, then another, then another.
• Start, even if it isn’t perfect. Start, even if you don’t know exactly what to do. Just Start! Sometimes it takes us moving toward something for us to see our next steps more clearly.
7 – Keep Your Eyes on Your Why
• As I said, your fears will continue to rise up and you will meet obstacles. Expect it, and decide now to keep your eyes on the prize. Your Goal. Your Why.
• We go toward what we focus on. Make sure you’re focusing on what you really want.
8 – Internal Motivation
• We all want external results. To accomplish our goal and make something successful. We want anyone to be able to come by and see our progress. However, that can’t be our primary motivation.
• Our motivation and drive must come from the inside. Do it for you. Stir yourself up.
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity or cowardice or fear, but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of sound judgment and personal discipline [abilities that result in a calm, well-balanced mind and self-control].
1 Timothy 1:7 amp
9 – Refocus and Re-adjust
• Refocus on your WHY over and over, every time you want to quit. Think about how much you’d regret it if you did quit, and then declare your renewed motivation for action.
• Don’t be afraid to Adjust your goals or actions. Many times, when we start working toward something our paths begin to get clearer. Re-adjust your action steps accordingly.
9 Steps to Fight Fear – It seems like a lot, I know. I thought about cutting some of them out. I chose not to because I want you to know that you’re not alone in the struggle against fear. Even some of the most accomplished people in the world have fear surrounding the thing you consider their success. So, my prayer is the details of 9 steps will help you to start, then continue to take action when you want to quit – Fight fear.
What is your Goal? What do you really want to do but haven’t started?
Have you identified your fear yet?
It doesn’t end here. There’s so much more. Next week we will dive into the spiritual and mental sides of fear.