Who is it that convinced you of the all the things that you “should be” doing?
Do you even know who they are? Do you recognize when you take their ideas and make them your “should” do guilt list?
On this blog I will talk about different ideas. As I’ve already told you, I love new ideas. I love schedules, routines, organizing, homeschooling, trying things. These are things that I love, and they are things that can help some of you to live a more intentional smooth running life.
Now the things that work for me, are not all going to work for you. I hope some of my post speak to your heart in a way that voices your own concerns, fears, answers some of the questions that you ask yourself, or gives you ideas of systems to set up in your family to help things run smoothly.
However, never let anything that you read here or anywhere pile anything on your “should do” guilt list. If it’s something that will work for you and your family great. If it doesn’t work, that’s fine too. If you like the idea, but you now isn’t a good time. OK. File it away. I’ll be here when you’re ready.
I hope to inspire you. Give you ideas about your own greatness. I never want make you feel like “here is another thing that you’re not doing.” That isn’t inspiration. That’s like a jab wound.
I think that most people have good intentions. They find something that makes a difference in their lives, something that comes to matter to them, and they want to share it with others. They want others to have the break through that they did. The problem comes about, when the informer thinks all other ways are wrong.
Another problem is the receiver…you/ me…we can take these well meaning intentions, these picture perfect blog posts, pinterest images, and we internalize them into an image of what good mothers do. Happy families. Organized homes. Etc.
No one – No one! Has it all together. We all struggle with different things. Everyone has days where nothing gets done. The kids eat cereal for dinner, grab wrinkled up clean clothes from the dryer, and Mom just wants to hide under the covers.
I have those days more often than I’d like to. So, don’t let someone’s picture perfect set the bar for your everyday life. We are all just doing our best, trying to love our husbands, raise good kids and Bless our family by keeping our home.
Now, take some time, go through the list of things that you want to do…feel like you should be doing. Write it all down. The list you have floating around in your head of all the things that you should do will surprise you. It will most likely be a couple pages long. Overwhelming.
I can’t believe my list is so long. What am I doing with my time? How am I ever supposed to do all this?
Now pay particular attention to the items that made you feel a twinge of guilt when you wrote them out – I can’t believe I haven’t done that.
Where did that item come from? Do you really want to do it? Did it get placed on your list by something you saw, read, or because a friend does it? Do you love it?
Anything that you see on your list that you are not in love with. That you don’t have anything that you want to sacrifice for – CROSS IT OFF.
So, how are you supposed to do everything on your list? YOUR NOT.
More so, guard your life, your goals, your plans. Guard them from letting others people’s break through become your standard.
Build the life that you want for yourself. Be encouraged, motivated, and get ideas from other people’s success. But always do what’s best for you and your family. If it’s not the best thing for you, that’s ok.
Let me say one last time – let this blog encourage, inspire, and give you fresh ideas. Never let this blog become something else on your “should do” list. I’m passionate about increasing the number of happy intentional mothers, not overwhelmed guilt ridden ones.
Do you have a hard time with this? Do you see a positive outcome from what someone else is doing and make this your own rule? Do you allow others to add to your “should do” list? Do you feel guilt because you are not getting things done like so and so? What do you do to keep from comparing yourself to others? How do you protect your to-do list?
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